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Healing Through Accountability

We are our own worst critics. We notice everything we do wrong and we never acknowledge what we do correctly, because that’s what we expect from ourselves. I have a question for you, do you hold everyone to the standards you set, or is it just yourself? I know that for me, I hold myself to some very high standards and every one is always telling me to give myself a break. Does that sound familiar? So this week we will be talking about why accountability can be so important. There are pro’s and con’s to everything, but when we hold ourselves accountable to the things we can’t control instead of the things we can, we will be our own destroyer. This is your written Tower Card; Time to start rebuilding.  

The first thing to do here would be to really look at your situation, how much control do you really have within it? I need you to be really honest with yourself. If your answer is ‘not much’, which it almost always is, it’s time to focus on what you CAN control. Generally, the only thing we can control is how we react. If something happens that makes the sirens go off in your head, you may not be able to control your reaction, but you can control how you react to that reaction. In a situation like this, you need to make sure that you stay inside your head, gauge your initial reaction, take a deep breath, and then try to focus. 

One of the hardest things to accept is that we are very rarely in control. This was the worst realization for me, as a certified control freak. I tend to freak out and lash out when I feel like control is slipping away from me; which I realize and hold myself accountable for. I’m working on walking away from things out of my control. I’m working on taking accountability for everything I do. By taking accountability, it has allowed me to live a stronger, and happier life. 

When we hold responsibility for things that we are not accountable for, we lower our vibration. We take on pains and challenges for others which can weigh us way down. Holding on to the trauma, lessons, and healing opportunities for other people takes away the opportunity to focus on healing the trauma, lessons and wounds within ourselves.  That’s not what I want for you. I want you to see your actions, be proud of them, and remember that if you hold yourself accountable for everything you do, you will find your path lit much brighter. 

You can do this. 



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