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The Sober Witch Life Sunshine’s Guide to a Mystical Recovery: Season 2 Episode 9 Embracing Recovery and Overcoming Addiction

In this deeply personal and transformative episode, we delve into the heart of addiction and recovery, highlighting the experiences and insights of those who have walked this challenging path. Our host reflects on a poignant moment of realization spurred by witnessing a loved one’s catastrophic battle with alcohol abuse. This journey illuminates the critical importance of acknowledging and admitting one’s struggles, whether with alcohol, drugs, gambling, or any other addictive behaviors.

We explore the concept of a “dry drunk,” a state where individuals may have given up their addictive substance but have not yet begun the essential inner work required for true recovery. Listeners will learn to recognize signs that they may be stuck in toxic cycles, from remaining in unfulfilling situations to neglecting financial mindfulness.

This episode offers solace and guidance, encouraging witches and non-witches alike to integrate their spiritual practices into daily life to foster healing and growth. Tune in for compassionate advice, shared experiences, and an invitation to start taking steps towards a healthier, more fulfilling life. Whether you’re on the brink of admitting your struggles or are supporting someone on their recovery journey, this episode provides valuable insights and support.

Sunshine – The pink-haired psychic medium:

Hey everyone, it is Sunshine right back here again. I’m recording this a little bit earlier than normal because I will be at a expo all this weekend. Today, I’m gonna talk to you a little bit about what it means to be powerless over alcohol. So step one in a 12-step recovery program is admitting that you’re powerless. Even the rewrite of the 12 steps that I created for a sober witch, it’s still admitting that you’re powerless over alcohol. Or, you know, I’ve had a lot of folks ask me recently, could they, you know, work with me if they were experiencing, you know, a relationship with another addiction? And absolutely you can. The first step in any addiction, though, is admitting that you no longer have power over, like admitting that.

 

And I’ve sat around in a lot of the tables, my first, you know, almost six months within sobriety was, you know, leveraging and using AA in the 12 step program. And I’ve talked to a lot of those folks and I’ve listened to so many first step stories, like these stories of  what it’s like to be a first step person. A lot of those folks. I’ve listened to so many first-step stories, like these stories of what life is really like prior to making that admittance. I’ve also talked to a lot of people that show signs of addiction that aren’t even ready to admit it. Maybe it’s they’re not ready to admit it to others, maybe they’re not ready to admit it to themselves, like whatever that may be.

 

I even had a partner in my past tell me that they were ready to admit to it, yes, and agree to abstain, and then continue to hide the use of addictive substances behind my back, alcohol included. This statement can even be controversial in some circles. I belong to a number of different Facebook groups that talk about sobriety and things of that nature, and sometimes this can really rile people up because there is this kind of controversy of turning this over to something else, like this admittance piece. So I want to talk a little bit about that, because admitting that you’re powerless looks different for every single person. I didn’t have the ability to stop drinking after one drink, I wanted another then another and very often another and another and another until it was time to go to bed. And that meant I often drank in excess, you know at the peak of my addiction. I was actually able to consume, gosh, I don’t even know.

 

I mean, I remember once and upon a time bragging of being able to almost finish a case of beer. I know it was my early 20s, but in a matter of, you know, I think we were drinking like maybe seven or eight hours, like probably started I think around dinner time and, you know, went well into the middle of the night, you know. So it also, for me, it included drinking in excess. It included glamorizing the drinking lifestyle, like, hooting and hollering about it, sharing a lot on social media about it, trying to make sure that all my friends were kind of like in that kind of vibe of drinking, partying, living loose, and all that kind of stuff. I was trying to find ways to include alcohol in pretty much anything. And if that was like, I knew I was going to go to a vent or something, it may just be a matter of me having a drink on the way or waiting until afterwards. But I spent a lot of time thinking about drinking. It was wild.

 

And I’m not going to lie to you, friends, it included monitoring and even trying at some point to moderate. So, oh, I’m only gonna drink beer. Oh, I’m only gonna drink wine. Oh, I won’t do hard liquor. I’ll only do a shot. You know, like all of these various different things. I mean, a lot, a lot. And this is where that statement to me of powerless came from. I didn’t realize how much time and energy I spent thinking and revolving my life around alcohol and drinking. And so for you, maybe your addiction isn’t alcohol. Maybe it is something a little bit harder. Maybe you’re unfortunately struggling with opioid abuse. Maybe you’re struggling with some kind of barbiturate type of, you know, abuse. Maybe it’s gambling, maybe it’s food, maybe it’s sex. Maybe it’s just chaos and drama. I can’t tell you how many folks I’ve talked to in the course of the last couple of years that they’re like, oh, I don’t really drink or I don’t have a substance, but yet they were the gossipers, the dramas, the victims. They were totally addicted to this whole chaotic energy that often comes with substance abuse. 

 

I’ve talked to a lot of folks, and it doesn’t matter what it is that’s robbing you from the joy that you really deserve in life, but it does take us to admit that there’s a problem in the first place. Why am I sharing all this with you? Simply put, alcoholism and an unhealthy relationship with alcohol doesn’t look like it does in the movies, my dear friends. There doesn’t need to be homelessness, there doesn’t need to be sickliness, there doesn’t need to be begging on a street corner just to get enough money to cover a half pint or a 40. There doesn’t need to be physical abuse or violence involved in it. It can look like, champagne toasts at a wedding. It can look like, one beer that you only have at the end of every day. It doesn’t need to look like what it looks like in the movies.

So you may be realizing my dear friend that you are powerless. Or you may be fighting that and that’s okay. The biggest thing that I’ve shared with a lot of individuals, especially those that are teetering on that sober curious kind of lifestyle, is that to me it wasn’t an overnight decision. Like there was almost two whole years. It was around 2017 where I started to think about my relationship with alcohol. Just think about it, you know wondering was it okay? Was it healthy? And a big prompt of that was my father on his deathbed. He drank himself to the point that his heart was no longer functioning. His liver and his kidneys were shutting down. His body was basically destroyed because of his alcohol intake. That’s not even how it ended. After 55-something years of drinking, he was diagnosed and told that his heart was not functioning as well and then still continued a couple, a number more years until the point that he was dying.

 

It doesn’t need to look like what it does in the movie. You just have to admit, and I don’t care if it’s alcohol, drugs, sex, chaos, violence, drama, shopping, you know, gambling, whatever it is, you just have to admit. That’s the first step is just admitting and saying, hey man, something’s not right. My life is not what I want it to be. My life is not the life that I dream that I would be living. And I think, I think that’s the biggest thing. So how might this be showing up for you? I want to be very clear. I mentioned in the last podcast if you haven’t heard of it, I mentioned this concept of a dry drunk. This is an individual that may have given up what it is. The alcohol, the gambling, the sex, you know, the narcotics, whatever it may be. This is an individual that may have given up the substance that was bringing them down, like dragging them down, but they have not done the deep inner work, that shadow work that us witches know is so potent and powerful, they haven’t done it. And therefore, they haven’t released themselves from a lot of the depressive symptoms and behavioral patterns that addicts have.

 

So, my dear witches, I’m gonna share a couple of those things with you. And I’m going to keep talking about that. I’m definitely going to talk more about that. And so this can be literally continuing to remain that is not bringing you joy. Maybe this is a career, maybe this is a relationship, maybe this is a volunteer position, maybe this is what you do with your children after whatever it may be, but continuing to go back day after day into the same situation that you know is not bringing you happiness and joy. Another sign can be continuing to not pay attention to your financial situation. This is one that I do struggle with every now and again. I have a habit of trying to, and it’s long-standing, since I was a child where like little gifts and things of that nature would would release those dopamine releases so I’m constantly in this one, right? I admit so I’m constantly kind of in this recovery state around, not being this shopaholic even that is, buying these little gifts and trinkets and things of that nature in order to just make myself feel better. So I’m very conscious of that particular piece.

 

If you find yourself constantly walking away from a relationship and then back into it, that’s another sign. I have a number of friends that I’ve watched this for and you know I’ve called them out on it and they admit it and they admit that it’s hard, they admit that it’s hard to walk away from it. So that’s another sign. You may literally be burning yourself out and never doing anything about it, physically, emotionally ending up like completely exhausted or constantly finding yourself overwhelmed in these state of tears. I’m in this point of burnout right now and thankfully I’m recognizing it and I’m giving myself a lot of time and space, they’re a lot. and I’m almost five years into recovery, my dear friends. When I say that you’re like kind of that “dry drunk”, so to speak, it’s because you’re not paying attention and not doing the things that you need to do when you’re noticing or, or recognizing that these situations are happening.

 

I apologize, because I had an alarm set earlier, and I had my phone on. And the last but not least, so many individuals that I have talked to have stated that they have lost their way on their spiritual path. They aren’t connecting what they want to. And as a witch, this is really important. It’s really important that we’re continuing to involve our magic, our rituals, our practices in our daily life. It’s really important in order for us to remain on that road to recovery. So yeah, my dear friends, it’s important if this is resonating with you. I don’t think that I’m expecting you to go proclaim right here and now, yes, you have a problem. Yes, you need help or anything of that nature. Maybe you’re at that point and that’s amazing and wonderful and beautiful. Please feel free to reach out. But if not, just know thinking about it, right takes you a step closer to admitting. All right, my dear friends until the next time much love from me to you.

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